Ask More. Get More. Leadership Podcast

Change Is GOING To Happen Like it or Not - Check Your Mindset [Chris DT Gordon]

May 24, 2021 Bare Slate Inc. Season 2 Episode 115
Ask More. Get More. Leadership Podcast
Change Is GOING To Happen Like it or Not - Check Your Mindset [Chris DT Gordon]
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Ask More. Get More. Leadership Podcast
Change Is GOING To Happen Like it or Not - Check Your Mindset [Chris DT Gordon]
May 24, 2021 Season 2 Episode 115
Bare Slate Inc.

The Ask More Get More Show with special guest Chris DT Gordon discussing how you can get more out of your health & wellness mindset during change.

Chris is a professional speaker who spends his time educating individuals about an Attitude of Gratitude and how it impacts your mindset (especially during times of change).

He possess a Master’s degree in Special Education-Learning Disabilities, a Bachelor’s degree in Elementary Education, and has four teaching licenses. Chris has over 15 years of full-time teaching experience, including eight years for an online public school.


He started pursuing motivational speaking engagements designed to inspire and motivate people based on his life experience, which includes hospitalization and recovery from necrotizing fasciitis (flesh-eating bacteria).

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Show Notes Transcript

The Ask More Get More Show with special guest Chris DT Gordon discussing how you can get more out of your health & wellness mindset during change.

Chris is a professional speaker who spends his time educating individuals about an Attitude of Gratitude and how it impacts your mindset (especially during times of change).

He possess a Master’s degree in Special Education-Learning Disabilities, a Bachelor’s degree in Elementary Education, and has four teaching licenses. Chris has over 15 years of full-time teaching experience, including eight years for an online public school.


He started pursuing motivational speaking engagements designed to inspire and motivate people based on his life experience, which includes hospitalization and recovery from necrotizing fasciitis (flesh-eating bacteria).

Find Chris here:

All of the links in one place!

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SPEAKERS

Guest:Chris DT Gordon,
Co-Hosts: Laura Moon, Nicole Girouard

 Intro  00:04

This is the ask more get more podcasts in depth conversations with Bare Slate leaders, Laura and Nicole, as they engage industry professionals to learn more about what they believe to be best practices in the changing world around us. Come join the conversation.

 

Nicole  00:17

Hi, everybody. Welcome back to the ask more get more show with Nicole and Laura here where we firmly believe you are one conversation away from changing your life and getting more. Speaking of getting more today we're talking about how you can get more out of your health and wellness really, during the last year and a half of change. We have the perfect person here to talk to us about it. We have Chris DT Gordon, who is an outstanding athlete has had to adapt to change for a number of reasons. If you've listened to the show before, you'll know why we've had Chris here before. Chris, I want to thank you for coming back and talking to us,

 

Chris  00:51

Nicole, Laura, it's my pleasure entirely. Thank you very much for having me on. And forcing me to take a five minute Cold Shower slash bath to get here. You're gonna know that that's more on my timing of my ability to adapt my running schedule and my lifestyle but it was a challenge. We were responsible for the necessary cold showers good. Yeah. Well, we often is not here so I feel a little better saying blame somebody. I know that you're here. Again. Nothing like a cold shower to restart your whole body. I can't really wakes you up. Yeah. perspective. Yeah, yeah. Okay. I

 

Nicole  01:36

know that we're here to talk about a few things. But just not to do realist. We've Lord Do you member we've we had someone else talk to us about the importance of cold showers and trying? Oh, yeah, are you doing it?

 

Chris  01:49

Well, I first of all, you know, as a runner, you I you know, you have inflammation and in areas where you know, that you need to keep, you know, keep the inflammation down. And so you want to use cryotherapy, they call it Yeah. And so you want to cool down your body. And just bring it back to homeostasis. Interesting. So being I've said it middle aged, you know, come on and own it on the other side of that hill, want to do more to take care of your body. And he also cold showers a great way to do that. I'm also and we're probably going to get into this with our discussion, as I don't sweat on a major portion of my body, right? I can't regulate my body temperature by sweating. So that that cold shower, that cold bath really helps me cooled down. So I can, you know, return to a normal temperature.

 

Laura Moon  02:59

It's amazing. Interesting. So this month in the in our membership space, and it's all about adaptability, how do we adapt the environments and the changes in our body and the way we think and you know, for someone who has experienced so much in even in the past year, but in the past, in the past decade, you know that that transition to middle age, the things that you've experienced, you personally have had to adapt so much in so many ways. Because you've had changes with your body. And when you talk about not being able to perspire through this through the scar tissue, and just just adapting to that change in your life. Talk to me about how you've had the mindset to be able to sort of push through it and the things and the strategies you do to just overcome to adapt and still be this amazing, fantastic superhero person that you are like, Yeah, come on, share seriously.

 

Chris  04:02

Well, thanks. Well, for those who don't know my story, I'll give the five, the five cent version in 2015. I scratched my right hand on my exterior garage wall. And three days later, I woke up with a big lacrosse ball size bump on my elbow, went to the doctor, they said wait on it and just see. I saw, I saw it grow to triple the size of my left arm. So I looked like Incredible Hulk commit transformation. I went back to the hospital. They said whoa, that's cool. We can't do anything for you. You got to go somewhere else. And I said hey, I know how about the best Hospital in the world. So they sent me the Mayo Clinic where they diagnosed me with necrotizing fasciitis. Oh, also known as flesh eating bacteria. Really quick for a comic book geek like myself. A fantastic origin story to do. No kidding. Very Slender Man, very all of them. Yeah, exactly. So I spent two months in the hospital, I needed all that infected skin removed. I also needed a flap of skin take from my left thigh place in my right hand and forearm, this is called my fanned because of that, but because I'm a runner, and my legs are somewhat muscular, they cannot close the wound and my left thigh, so they had to extract my vastus lateralis from my left quadricep, which is the outermost leg muscle in your thigh. So instead of a quad, I have a try. Now Wow. And then they also had to extract numerous skin grafts for you to cover up the infected areas. And, and so as you said, I had made a major change major change to my body. And in your, like you said doesn't sweat. It also contracts, it constricts. So I need to keep constant movement, because skin grafts they tend to tighten up if you don't exercise them. And so you have the I can tractability, you have the the non sweating, this is a technical term, that's a lack of a lack of muscle in my left thigh. So those are the three the three largest ways that my body has been altered, you know, because of an F. So the first, you know, the first way I'm going to talk about is the, the lack of skin, skin pores, lack of pores in the skin graft area. Now, as I said, I'm a runner. And a small note about running, people tend to sweat when they do what it takes to get so when you can sweat, it turns into a pressure cooker. Inside, you're building up all that internal body heat, and there's no escape for it. So even even when I'm working in the office here, it could get really warm, when I'm running it cooks is almost, I mean, it gets painful, sometimes, because of the heat radiating. So when I'm on long runs on hot days, I will sometimes bring a compression sleeve, a running compression sleeve that goes over my arm and put an ice pack in their i o clock bag and put some ice in there. Um, you know, also bring a water bottle, sometimes it'll squirt water on the area. And Ale, that's it's sometimes psychological more than physical, you know, I just I'm just telling myself, okay, I'm cooling off and cooling off. Because, you know, you can do so much with your mind by that belief of Okay, this is doing something. And, you know, even even doing that helps a little bit. Right. So, you know, it was that I put lotion on a lot. You know, just to keep these areas from, from chafing, basically from peeling and cracking. So there has been a lot of changes I've had to adapt to. But I'm really ramped. I mean, check this out.

 

Laura Moon  08:39

Seriously? Yeah, I mean, look, I mean, I'm a discount jet. I know you guys I love time, every time it's like I talk about stuff that's just I know like to get up and keep going. And then you're just always like it, check this out. your mindset is unbelievable. And I know that the work that you do on an everyday occurrence is you know, we're hoping sort of the underdog fighting through learning that you can do and you are capable of anything. You did not obviously plan to have to adapt to this space that you now find your body in.

 

Chris  09:27

I think my wife would have had some qualms with it. Yeah, probably. Yeah. Well, I did marry you because you were attractive and you want to take away a lot of that. And you think this is this is gonna make good cars play. Yeah, it was no plan, no horse.

 

Nicole  09:50

But what Laura is talking about and we may have touched on this before, but clearly there is something about the mindset you have when dealing with Any kind of change because you dealt with that? You've made some pivots in your own career. You're now an internationally known speaker. You've started an incredible podcast speaking do other individuals that have those physical scars love the name your podcast Garber's. And the I think the only thing that you said that hasn't like really changed a lot is your teaching, because you're a teacher. If I'm not mistaken, you're a special needs teacher, and you've been teaching remotely for almost a decade.

 

Chris  10:32

Yes, yes, this is I'm in my ninth year of teaching online, middle school, special education.

 

Nicole  10:39

So talk to us about your mindset when it comes to change. Because most people hate it, fear it, avoid it, like crazy, do everything they can to not change anything. And I'm sure it's not super easy, but you seem to have figured out how to just kind of, Okay, this is happening. What am I going to do now?

 

Chris  11:00

Yeah, I definitely know what you mean, I or as I say, I mean, what you know, Nicole, there you go. I love saying that we work with the change that really started this whole movement, as you mentioned, for me to become a speaker. It happened a few days after I woke from my coma. And I was really taking in all the changes that had happened. I hadn't even seen what my arm looked like, because the wounds were so fresh.

The doctors needed some some time for healing to start taking place. And they also needed to put me under so they could do dressing changes. So I'm a total mess. I'm bedridden on top of that, and because when you're when you're bedridden, you start for a long enough time you start developing blood clots. And so not only do I have a huge yellow cast on my right arm, I huge Jacob's Ladder knobs sticking out of my leg. contraption on my left leg. I've got a picc line, which is okay, you know, how cows have that machine hooked up the milking machine hooked up to the others. Imagine that sticking out of your arm?

Wow.

Because they needed to, you know, give give me painkillers and take blood. So I have one pic coming out of my arm. And then that's that branches out to a bunch of other lines to have all kinds of other things hooked up. So I have that going on. And I was I was really trying to take in what was going to happen moving forward? Yeah, it's a lot. And I mean, a week ago, a week, a week ago, you know, week prior, I guess. How do you say a week ago? Yeah. So a week prior to me with yesterday, I had run a 5k in under 19 minutes. 30 seconds. So I know, I was in pretty good shape. Yeah. But to go from that to being wrecked. I mean, you know, people use the word the term wreck nowadays. I was literally wrecked.

Wow.

To try to comprehend all that was happening at that time. And what what's going to happen? moving forward. I was at a precipice I was at a crossroads. My wife and I started talking. And she was telling me about all of these things that people were doing for me and my family. Things ranging from our neighbor's snowblower our driveway and shoveling our sidewalks. People you know, checking on the house, because Becky and the kids left in such a hurry. And also the dog can't forget max.

So Becky, the kids in the dog left in such a hurry that it was and we live in a small town so people knew we were gone. And he had to keep an eye on the house. So people were doing watches on the house. People were dropping off food to my in laws house because that's where Becky and a kid were staying while I was in the hospital for the first two weeks. People were donating toys to my kids because they didn't have any other toys.

Because they had left in such a hurry. Even a friend of Becky's from high school started a GoFundMe account to help with any lost wages that had occurred. As it turned out there were some so that really helped out when Becky was telling me all of these things I I just put my head back on my pillow. And I realized how blessed I was.

Not that I was in the current shape that I was, but how blessed I was to have so many people who love and support us. And it was at that moment, I made the conscious decision that I was going to rebound from this.

And I call it now the attitude of gratitude.

Because I was not going to let their love their kindness, their actions, be put into, you know, be in vain. I was not going to become a negative person, I was not going to spiral into the Why me, you know, hit me that we call that the pity party. Yeah, I wish I was not going to host a pity party. Because no one wants to receive that invitation. 

So from there, it really first fueled my recovery. I want to get I wanted to get out of there as quickly as possible as safely as possible. So I really started asking, okay, when can I start working out? When can I start walking? 

When can I do the hyperbaric oxygen treatments? Because I wanted to show people that their love their support their prayers, were going towards something positive.

 

Laura Moon  16:38

It's incredible. Chris, it's sorry, I just you made the choice. And I think that a lot of people, and I, you know, I just I could listen to you go on forever about this. But there's one really defining moment for me that I see that really changed the course of your life. And it wasn't necessarily all that it happened to you. It was the moment when you realize that it was a choice. And you accepted it as that?

 

Chris  17:15

Yes, I mean, it when I think about it. When I think about when I made that choice. It wasn't, you know, it wasn't like I was saying, I'm gonna take all these negative things now. But it definitely could have been it definitely I, you know, but I think that being able to accept that all these great things were in my life was the first key thing.

And I think that, you know, when I talk with people about the attitude of gratitude, I stressed strongly to actively observe what is good in your life. And I understand that, compared to other people, I had a really good life.

Going into March 2015, I had a, you know, a wonderful partner, I have three fantastic kids, I have a job that I love, I live in a safe, safe community. So I am, you know, relatively speaking, doing very well. And I understand that I understand that. Not, not everyone can say that.

However, if you have a beating heart, if you have clothes on your body, if you wake up in the morning, you have something to be thankful for you have a starting point. And you can take that starting point and go anywhere with it. The choice is yours. 

And so that's what I want people to do I want first though, first of all, I want them to notice what do they have in their lives that they can be thankful for? And so in the hospital, I talked about how I was thankful for the first season of Daredevil on Netflix. 

No, because I my, my brother bought me an iPad so I could, you know, watch stuff while I was or interact with people while I was recovering. And that had just come out when I was in the hospital. So I was able to binge watch that show. I really enjoyed the fact that the sun didn't shine in my eyes when I was bedridden. 

And I know that sounds weird to Nicole, you just tilt your head like what? No, I think that's amazing. I know exactly what you're talking about. I can sleep in that situation. I know exactly. 

And when you're bedridden, you have so little control over your environment, that you don't want to bother someone for one more thing. thing. And so the fact that even at midday, the sun never shined in my eyes. I appreciated that. I love that. 

And then there's the hospital pizza. Oh, I don't know if it was because I hadn't had pizza in a while, because I was eating soft feel I was like liquid foods and whatnot. But that hospital pizza was phenomenal. It was like this six inch diameter, heel deep, or what would it be? Like 12 centimeter in diameter? ish. Ah, I was awesome. 

So I look forward to the times where I can have that pizza. 

And it's all you know, it's finding just what you appreciate, and what is a value to you not, not the worth. But the value. Example, nowadays, you know, clippers, you know, everyone else nail clippers, you know, no big deal. But when you get a hangnail, or you just scratch yourself with your own nail, which is come embarrassing, you know, that is, you know, that is, you know, it's a godsend when you can finally find this thing and take care of that problem. 

And so be able to take care of that. And being able to, to have those items in your life is a blessing, and it's something to be thankful for. And so I think that it's a, you know, that's the first thing that I really stress upon people is to look around you, what can you be thankful for? 

And not just at every moment of the day, but at least one moment of the day, or you can when you need it, what can you say, "Hey, I'm happy I have this pen. So I can write down notes. So that's why the first thing I do is stress to people is find what you can be thankful for".

 

Nicole  22:00

I mean, you've clearly illustrated what it means to put that gratitude into practice. I think we all talk a lot about the practices of gratitude. But you're absolutely right, we take so much for granted around us. And oftentimes, when something's been in your life for a long time, like your pen, you take it for granted, and you sort of minimize the value it brings you. 

And I think just by focusing on, I actually have an instrument I can write with because when you don't have one and you need one, that's a one priority, you can't find one fast enough. So I I love that positioning, you've trained your brain to still look for the continuity and gratitude of the things you have, even when things around you are changing, like crazy force change, or even some plans change. And I think that's something that we aspire to, don't you think Laura,

 

Laura Moon  22:53

to be able to do that 100% I mean, this is we talk about capacity a lot. And part of navigating our own personal capacity is really paying attention to all the things that we're aware of and, and the tools that we do have. And like I seriously don't understand why there isn't an international nail clipping day. Like, oh my gosh, every single person on this planet understands the power of that tool if they've ever had a hangnail. Sure, yeah. And it's, it's the little things that we just completely bypass and don't give any attention to that. Save us so much pain. Yeah, you know, and I love I love your practice of gratitude. It's, it's incredible. And I think it really builds a person's capacity, how much they can handle the change what they can rely on, when change comes, I mean, you have built you and your family have built a tribe or community of humans that just have so much respect for you. likely because you had the respect for them and you are equals in life. 

And that says so much about a person's character, so much about a person's ability to adapt to change in environments and you my friend you lead by example, every minute of every day and that is something that I will look up to you for since the day I met you and I want to thank you for coming on and sharing your little bits of wisdom that you learned from the change that was forced on you and how you adapted because it means a lot to me and I think it'll mean a lot to everybody who's listening. I know you've had an impact and everybody in our membership. Just keep being you man because I just think you're awesome. Well, thank

 

Chris  24:47

God I those words are treasures to me. Thank you very much. And, you know, I I feel is is a definite George Bailey moment, you know, that I experienced when people were coming in and you know, shoveling our walk and donating toys and donated the GoFundMe. 

And not that I was on a bridge with a with an angel next to me, but it's, it was nice, but not nice. It was a blessing, you know, on many in many ways to have that. And I want to, you know, in one, you know, not only to help people live a life, more gratitude, but personally, I want to live a life where people will do you know, will be willing to do that, again, not that I ever want them to. But I think it might sound selfish, but at the same time, it's being a better person that got me that reaction. 

And so if I can live a George Bailey life, to where people want to help me out when I need it. I need to do what George Bailey did to get to garner that reaction, which is be a good person,

 

Nicole  26:13

bigger human. Yeah, Chris, that's the thing. It's reciprocal. So you clearly spent a lot of time genuinely helping the people in your community, which is why they wanted to help you. So I don't think that's selfish at all. I think it's just you're a good human, and people are going to be a good human back to you. 

Now, before we run out of time, Chris, please share with everyone where they can find you. I'm going to say right off the bat, if you're not following Chris on LinkedIn, I'll make sure the link is below because he shows you what to be grateful for. And he shares what he's grateful for pretty much every day. And some of the things that you're grateful for. It make me look around and go oh, yeah, that's excellent. Me too. I didn't even think of that. Thank you. So I'll recommend LinkedIn. 

But talk to us about your podcast and where people can connect with you.

 

Chris  27:00

Definitely, thanks to cool. So first of all, they can go to link tr.ie. forward slash Chris DT Gordon, that's my link tree site. It has the podcast as you mentioned scar bearers. It has the sister YouTube channel, Chris DT Gordon, where I show the video versions of those podcast conversations has my speaking websites where people can see you know, the testimonials of others who've experienced my presentations. 

And and my message of the attitude of gratitude. Also has my my, as you mentioned, LinkedIn, my professional Facebook, my Instagram sites. I also have my my online store, Chris dt, Gordon's tag and pop shop where they can get some behind the this with the tag logo. And then I also have my catchphrase past perfection and go for greatness. 

I have some I have some t shirts on there. I have some hats. I have a phone cases. I even have some gators, you know, so if you want to go into us, I go into building after done running.

 

Nicole  28:16

I already know I need that T shirt pass on perfection go for greatness. Everyone knows I'm a recovering perfectionist.

Laura
Perfect that for you, Nicole. I love that.

 

Chris  28:26

I also have some free stuff. I have a tag one sheet where people could remind themselves how to live the absolute gratitude on a regular basis. And I'm also i'm not sure i told you ladies this I'm also now a contributing writer for a women's magazine. No you did in which it's called Life quote journal and just here in April, and I'm in the April edition. 

My article is in my link tree site. It's a bait being it's a based on passing up perfection going for greatness. Now, I also I think you guys know I'm also a co author of an anthology called Blue talks presents business life and university volume three, that can also be found at link tr.ie. forward slash Chris DT Gordon. I love it. Yep. 

And they also get set up for my weekly emails. And, again, if you guys want to reach out to me that to speak about how I can use my message to reach your young people because I want to reach out to high schoolers, college students, young adults, to help them combat their own personal bacteria. So overcome that and go for greatness on their own terms. 

Hey, Chris, you're

 

Nicole  29:49

just amazing everybody. Please go and check out everything he just listed. I'm getting a T shirt, obviously. Amongst other things, please listen to the podcast, Laura and I highly recommend it. The newsletter we also get every week, which we highly recommend. 

So guys, we promise you it will be absolutely incredible when you do, Chris, thank you for jumping on here and speaking to us again, we will not let another year go by before we catch up, I promise you.

 

Chris  30:15

Well definitely again ladies, it's been my pleasure. I always enjoy talking with you guys. And I love listening to your show when I'm running on the treadmill in the morning. And when I when I can type and run at the same time. Josh chiming in and saying hi. We love that. Thank you so much is the best.

 

Nicole  30:34

All right, you guys everything Chris just mentioned will be listed in the show notes below for our members. watching everything that Chris talked about will wave to everyone here in the membership. It will be down below as well. 

So please be sure to subscribe to the show because the next conversation you hear just like this one could be the one that changes your life. Have an excellent day.

 

Laura Moon  30:57

Hey guys, if you enjoyed this episode, you can always get more by watching the after the show recap with Nicole and I and don't forget, members get early access to all ask more get more shows episodes before they go live here on the channel. Click the link below to learn more about the membership today.

 

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